Calling all homeschool parents, parents of kids with special needs, or therapists/teachers of kids with special needs.
Anna is a very intelligent, almost eight year old, little girl. A little girl that I am having a hard time with knowing what to do with. I can’t seem to find what motivates Anna. I feel like I’ve tried it all. We are at a crossroads.
Anna wants to be treated like an infant. This scares me since we are about to have an infant. Anna is capable of so much, in fact just how much she is capable of, well….it’s pretty awesome.
Unfortunately, she doesn’t want to do anything.
She can put her own shoes on, but will fight it. She can even do the fancy little clasps, but again will fight it. She can put on and take off her own coat. She fights it though. She can button her own jeans, but doesn’t want to. So much of her time is spent in refusal.
I won’t do it for her. I also won’t let other people do it for her either. Now at home she doesn’t open up the water works anymore. She tried that the first few months after coming home, but quickly realized that we still weren’t going to do things for her that she can do herself. Out in public though, oh boy, she turns those crocodile tears on.
Anna also doesn’t want to play with toys. Any toys. She knows how to play with everything available to her, but since we don’t have anything that she can sit and just repitively push buttons on, she usually won’t play.
Every now and then she will yell for Andy to play ponies with her, but other than that when it’s free time, and we tell her she can play with her toys…..she cries.
I’ve had her completely checked out, she’s not sick, nothing in her diet is causing issues, and she gets an adequate amount of rest. She’s well hydrated, has no hearing issues, no health issues at all.
I can’t find her motivator. It seems as if it’s going to cause her to put forth the smallest effort, then she shuts down and won’t do it. We are at an impasse. Right now she knows her alphabet and the sounds, but we can’t branch into phonics and reading. I have various types of programs both sight word reading (which is supposed to be more effective for Ds) and different phonics programs. She has the vocabulary, but refuses to talk with it, and I feel like something internally is holding her back. Something is holding her back from letting herself excel in the ways that she is capable.
But what? What can I do? How can I help her? Anyone have any ideas?